What this website cannot do?
This website cannot recommend one service or program over another. This is to avoid any conflict of interest or the perception of a conflict of interest.
Our aim is to provide as much information as possible without it being too confusing.
This site will also promote the views of those individuals who:
- Are the world leaders in their chosen fields of addiction treatment
- Personal stories about recovery
- Organisations and individuals who believe all treatment modalities are as important as one another
- We will actively promote FREE services (For obvious reasons)
WHY HAVE THIS WEBSITE?
This website was built mainly for present and previous clients/patients who had no idea where to start looking for a rehab in Australia, what kind of rehab services in Australia were available to them and what were the differences between each rehab in Australia.
This website is not monitored 24/7 and at times may take days to update new posts.
The only reviews or posts that will be published on this site will preferably be written by people who have attended the actual rehabs themselves. Rehabs themselves are all welcome to respond to posts or send updates regarding any inaccurate information that might be posted on the website.
The purpose of the website is to give a fair and balanced account of personal experience.
This website is not for personal vendettas. It is not an open forum for people to say what they like.
The moderator of this site reserves the right not to publish posts, comments or reviews.
Comments and reviews, which are only negative, must be given a context.
- “They were only trying to rip me off”
- “They are all drug dealers”
“They don’t know what they are doing”
These are just quick snipes with no context or reference and lack meaning for the reader.
A better EG might be below
- When I attended the rehab, I thought it was going to cost a certain amount and I was charged a lot more than I first thought. I stayed two weeks and then left and now I have relapsed. I didn’t think they provided me with enough care and support. There were goods things about the rehab but I guess it wasn’t for me. I think; “They were trying to rip me off”. I have asked several times for my money back but I understand they have a no refund policy. This rehab might be for you but it didn’t work for me. I am still using and trying desperately to get clean. This is a much bigger task than I anticipated. Other people were getting clean at the rehab but just not me. Perhaps next time I need to do more research and find out about their smoking cigarettes policy.
- When I arrived at the rehab I felt very isolated and my detox was very painful. I lied about how long I had been clean before I entered. I struggled to go to groups and do simple chores. One of the other residents had smuggled in some drugs and was trying to sell me some. I didn’t tell the staff. I thought they were all drug dealers. I had to leave immediately and go and get on. I didn’t think rehabs would have drugs in them. I guess I should have told someone.
- This was my first attempt at getting clean. I had no idea what to expect but I had only been told good things by the intake staff. They wanted me to go to groups, do chores and take part in all their programs. I wasn’t interested. Didn’t they understand I was still detoxing? They don’t know what they are doing. Many people were attending the groups but I left and have since relapsed. I am not ready to get clean, I just needed a rest, and I will do more research next time I look for a rehab.
The difference with these remarks is that they are honest, taking 50% responsibility for what has taken place. Reviews don’t have to look like this but more honest and rounded review or post will get published if it is entirely negative.
This site is not Facebook for rehabs or a general personal rant about someone.
Context, references and if you have something negative to say you must also be accountable for your own actions.
No one is 100% to blame for anything, 50% responsibility must be taken for negative reviews. An extremely important part of getting clean is getting honest and taking responsibility.
Parents and loved one please go the page titled “Families and loved one”.
There are links to more resources for you.
As family members and friends, we will often do everything in our power to help a loved one with an addiction. More often than not, however, our actions are feeding or further enabling their addiction.
Drug addiction in any form is a complex disease that not only affects the user but their friends and family as well. It is important to understand that there is a difference between enabling and helping an addict. Although it may seem like a very fine line at times, crossing the line from helping to enabling can be devastating for all involved (sharynsslant.hubpages.com).
Helping = assisting the addict with something that they are truly unable of doing themselves.
Enabling = assisting the addict with something that they are truly capable of doing and by all means should be doing themselves.
Warning Signs Of Enabling Behavior
- Do you rationalize the addict’s irrational behaviour?
- Do you make excuses for the addict?
- Do you loan money to the addict over and over again?
- Are you surprised when they use the money to get their next fix?
- Do you end up finishing projects that the addict never completed?
- Do you pay their bills?
- Have you bailed them out of jail?
- Have you paid their legal fees?
- Have you ever called in sick to school or work for them?
- Have you cleaned up their messes?
- Have you believed their lies?
- Do you blame yourself in part for the addict’s behaviour?
- Have you lied to the addict?
- Have you covered up for them to avoid embarrassment?
- Do you think that you can fix the addict?
- Do you give them one more chance ~ time after time?
- Do you threaten to leave but then never do?
- Do you threaten to kick the addict out but don’t follow through?
It is important to remember that we did not cause their addiction nor can we “fix them”. We can, however, change the way we treat and react to their addiction.
Specific Actions To Stop Enabling Behavior
- Do not lie to the addict.
- Do not make excuses for the addict.
- Do not loan them money.
- Do not be their alarm clock.
- Do not bail them out of jail.
- Do not pay their bills.
- Do not be afraid to file a police report for theft, violence, etc.
- Do not be afraid to obtain a restraining order if necessary.
- Do not clean up their messes or destruction.
- Do not remain in arguments.
- Do not make ultimatums if you are not 100% confident that you will stick with it (sharynsslant.hubpages.com)
This is not easy and many of us find ourselves “relapsing” back to our enabling behaviours. But in the end, it just might be the most loving and important thing we can do.